A similar question might be, "When the fuck did we get ice cream?!" If you've never seen the film co-written by Norah Ephron and Ron Reiner, then you're welcome to keep reading. You're way behind the times anyway...granted I had never seen it either til a few years ago when I was living with Jake, CJ and Laura at the scenic Lakewood apts in Tomball. Amenities include an on-site cemetary, which they don't mention online or include photos of in the brochure--but that's another story.
My intention for this post is to attempt to answer that age-old question posed by Sally in my own words:
Can men and women ever be "just friends" with each other?
Why or why NOT?
My heart wants to answer this question with a resounding YES. My head begs to differ. Maybe that's on opposites day. Lets figure it out TOGETHER!
Obviously when we meet someone we connect with and lo and behold even *gasp* LIKE...we may have this holy-shit-eureka type moment where we must pause and take emotional inventory.
What I mean is that it's so rare to find a person like this that it can be daunting to even consider the fact that they may be previously engaged in a romantic relationship or otherwise sexually unavailable.
When our instincts are correct, and we end up becoming actual friends with this new character in our lives, it can be a real test keeping things on the friendship level as realistically and adorably displayed in the more recent film of a similar vein, 'What If' starring Daniel Radcliff and the chick who plays Cameron Howe on Halt and Catch Fire. My data is too low to imdb this stuff right now and my ADD will render this post incomplete if I stop now.
I read about the concept of polyamory last year in Cosmo. I met and let a real-life polyamorist sex me up shortly thereafter. We share the same birthday so coming from him it was extremely easy to accept and even made me feel better about my somewhat scattered feelings about former flames and the like; read: matchbook romance.
Think about it. You have a book of matches, which represents your total capacity for love. How would you allocate the matches to fully satisfy your need to feed your various relationships? Forget about family and friends here for a moment and pretend that's a given (though we now know that's false since often those familial ships require more fuel than anything to maintain).
How do you pull that off with just twenty little sulphur tipped sticks that may or may not even successfully "go off" slash get LIT while still reserving enough to survive yourself i.e. fulfill your OWN needs so you can adequately love yourself as well?
It's a real trick to pull off, nay, feat. You must consider all the possibilities while keeping in mind how these other people in your life feel too. Remember that it's always best to just ASK if there's ever any doubt about how many matches they're feeding their flame for you.
The only true answer here to that age-old question is that it really does just depend. That's life. So there you have it.
Read the old entry on here entitled 'Fuckery pt. DUH' for more background on this topic from my personal experience.
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